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How Can You Help?

Do…

  • Offer unconditional friendship and support.
  • Be clear that you are there to listen, and not to judge.
  • Tell the person that it is not his/her fault.
  • Accept what he/she tells you.
  • Identify the unhealthy behaviors.
  • Acknowledge the scariness of sexual violence or relationship violence.
  • Encourage the person to build a support system.

 

Don’t…

  • Spread gossip.
  • Directly confront the abuser.
  • Blame the person for the assault or abuse.
  • Rush, make sure you have time to listen.
  • Make them do something they are not ready to do.
  • Criticize the person.