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Relationship Violence

What is Relationship Violence?
Relationship Violence means causing physical harm or abuse, and threats of physical harm or abuse, arising out of a personal, intimate relationship. Relationship violence often is a criminal act that can be prosecuted under Minnesota state law, as well as under the Student Conduct code and employee discipline procedures.

Relationship violence not only affects married women, it also affects anyone of any gender. Straight, lesbian, gay, dating, married, living together, old, young, people with disabilities, anyone of any race, even college students. If you think you are in an abusive relationship there is help available. Living in an abusive relationship or attempting to leave one can be a lonely and isolating experience. The Violence Prevention Program (6061) and /or Someplace Safe (800-974-3359) offers free, confidential advocacy and support services to those who would like assistance.

Remember, in a healthy relationship, each person is entitled to:

Have their needs be as important as their partner's needs.

  • Be free from blame or responsibility for their partner's behavior or actions.
  • Be able to voice their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
  • Be free from emotional, sexual, financial and physical abuse at all times.
  • Change their minds and not feel threatened.
  • Spend time with their friends and family and not feel pressured by their partner's jealousy.
  • Live without fear and confusion from their partner's anger.
  • Be treated with respect and never called names.
  • Negotiate conflict and make decisions about the relationship together.
  • Enjoy each other's dreams.

If you feel you are in an abusive relationship:

  • Take it seriously. If you are in immediate danger, call the police.
  • Talk to someone about it, such as a friend, parent, clergy, or counselor. You are not alone.
  • Get yourself a safety plan.
  • Call the Violence Prevention Program (6061) or Someplace Safe (800-974-3359) to assist you with restraining orders, safety planning, education, support, and other services you may need.

If you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship:

  • Voice your concerns.
  • Don't force them to break up with their partner until they are ready to do so on their own terms.
  • Tell them that they do no have to face the situation alone.
  • Offer your support and guidance, and refer them to the appropriate resources. Educate yourself about abusive relationships.