Does one person in the relationship…
- Insult his/her significant other in public?
- Act really jealous if his/her boyfriend talks to others?
- Check in on the other constantly?
- Make decisions for the other?
- Blow disagreements out of proportion?
- Threaten to break up, or constantly worry/accuse that the other will break up with them?
- Lose his/her temper verbally?
- Break or hit things to intimidate the other?
- Blame the other for their own problems?
- Abuse drugs and/or alcohol?
- THIS IS AN ABUSER
Does the other person in the relationship…
- Constantly cancel plans for reasons that don’t sound true?
- Always worry about making their boyfriend/girlfriend angry?
- Give up things that are important?
- Show signs of physical abuse, like bruises or cuts?
- Get pressured into having sex, or feel like a sex object?
- Have a boy/girlfriend that wants them to be available all the time?
- Become isolated from friends or family?
- THIS IS A VICTIM
How can you help?
- Offer unconditional friendship and support.
- Be clear that you are there to listen, and not to judge.
- Tell the person that it is not his/her fault.
- Accept what he/she tells you.
- Identify the unhealthy behaviors.
- Acknowledge the scariness of sexual violence or relationship violence.
- Encourage the person to build a support system.
- Spread gossip.
- Directly confront the abuser.
- Blame the person for the assault or abuse.
- Rush, make sure you have time to listen.
- Make them do something they are not ready to do.
- Criticize the person.
Staff: KiloMarie Granda, Violence Prevention Coordinator
The Violence Prevention Program provides advocacy services to students who are victim/survivors and concerned persons affected by sexual assault, relationship violence, and stalking. The Violence Prevention Program can help coordinate care on and off campus (academics, housing, medical care, etc.), assist in filing police reports, and assist with the campus judicial process. The Violence Prevention Program also provides prevention and awareness education.
Campus Police is committed to maintaining a safe and secure environment for the community. Campus Police provides proactive patrol, crime prevention and safety programs, safe escort services, investigations, parking and law enforcement, building access and security, and emergency services. Campus Police can also coordinate access to mental health services.
Student Counseling helps students cope with mental illnesses, recover from alcohol or drug abuse, and manage any type of personal crises or stress. Student Counseling also deals with emergencies, such as suicide threats and sexual assault. After hours, students in need of emergency services can call campus police at 320-589-1155, or 911.